Family Matters...?

Posted on November 07, 2011 at 05:19 AM (UTC) ( over 1 year ago);
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Apparently my family is Christian. I say that because we never go to church. Like, I haven't been in years. I was forced along with my younger sister to go to bible study when were like in elementary school but that's it. So all of a sudden, my parents tell me I have to get confirmed? Uh...excuse me? I blame it on my Grandma. Don't ge me wrong, I love her....but I absolutely hate it when she corners me and asks me about getting confimred. I don't believe in God. But I'm terrified at what my family will think. This is why religion bothers me. Why can't I have my own views? What makes you think your religion is the "correct" one? Most importantly, why waste your time? If you want something done, you gotta do it yourself. Amen to that.

 

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  1. RE: Family Matters...?

    Posted on November 07, 2011 at 11:10 AM (UTC) ( over 1 year ago )
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    Don't get bullied into getting confirmed if you don't believe in God. Easier said then done I know but it is something you will regret later on in life and if you change your mind its always something that you can do. Your family should respect your decision and give you the choice to follow your own path.

  2. RE: Family Matters...?

    Posted on November 07, 2011 at 04:58 PM (UTC) ( over 1 year ago )
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    384fe9378aedd2e1d624696382a8c70d

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    I feel your pain.  When I was a tenn, my family wanted me to become confirmed as well.  The more I thought about it the more I knew their religion was not for me.  I figured i had two choices then.  To "buck" and refuse or just get confirmed and when I move our just go my own way.  I chose to just go get confirmed and then when I left home, I simply did my own thing.  In some ways I regret my choice.  I felt it my right to think and feel how I wanted to.  But in some repsects you have to use a lot of tact in this circumstance.  They are you family.  Sometimes we have to make tough choices and do things we may not want, because we love them, and do not wish to hurt their feelings.  

    What I did was sit them down and explain that I was willing to get confirmed, but that I was not the "go to church" type.  I did it to make them happy.  I have some regrets, but in the end it was all no big deal.  I grew up, moved out, and went my own way and no one was any wiser.  Untill I got married......they expected a Catholic wedding...and that was NOT going to happen.  Just know you will have to eventualy come out and explain your religious view to your family.  Trust in the fact that they love you no matter what.  It is much eaiser to tackle these things after you have proven to them you are an independant adult capable of making your own sound choices.  I wish you the best of luck!!!! 

  3. RE: Family Matters...?

    Posted on November 10, 2011 at 09:47 PM (UTC) ( over 1 year ago )
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    9eda4747c718be01dfc2d8c4266fd687

    wrote the following:

    Yeah. Hypocrisy abounds. Mostly because we're conditioned to chase after a dangling(dollar) carrot that has no end in sight.

     The Atheist system is hard at work to remove God from the picture. It means no more guilt when a wrong is done. It means no more wrong. 

     "Wow, you mean we can just kill someone and forget about it if we dont get caught. You mean we can rip someone off for their bucks as long as we dont get figured out. Great! Lets fornicate publicly, with our mothers if we feel like it too. Hell why not throw in a few horses, porkers and dogs as well". 

     

    "Wait a minute, wern't the primitive people who got nowhere just like this. Hmmm. Sound like we're going back to the days of ignorance if we keep this up."

     

    I mean, even though our parents mess up their lives not worshipping, does it mean we gotta be the same as them? After all, religion is where the difference between good & bad is or right and wrong for that matter. What happens 200 years from now if all the religious laws disappear? Who will provide the rules. Your Atehist friend who can stab you in the back at any time because guilt and therefore punishment no longer exist.

    • RE: Family Matters...?

      Posted on June 06, 2012 at 06:28 PM (UTC) ( 12 months ago )
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      402fbabcdd7c79f2d08f4b4bbe4cf5c8

      wrote the following:

      You know, Atheists might not believe in a god but they still have a heart. I have friends who are against religion. They are obviously going to lie to me, gossip about me and backstab me. That's the only logical explanation, anyway. You are the one who is really causing the trouble, trying to turn people you don't even know against their friends. "Atheist" is not a derogitory term, but a**hole is.

    • RE: Family Matters...?

      Posted on July 09, 2012 at 02:08 AM (UTC) ( 11 months ago )
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      wrote the following:

      to the person renting about religion. . .its people like you that mess up the world just because people arent religious dose not mean that they don't know about or have morals, dont be a dumb shit

  4. RE: Family Matters...?

    Posted on July 07, 2012 at 03:25 AM (UTC) ( 11 months ago )
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    0cfcbbb6a4ecb6f71902c21743c5c630

    wrote the following:

    While I am a Christian, I agree with you that you should not be forced to be confirmed into a religion, or anything else, in which you do not believe. That being said, I would also add that I believe most people who reject religion, and God (the two are separate) do so for two basic reasons: 1 They are turned against it by their parents and their families in general, as you apparently have been, at least to some extent. 2 They have never explored the subject. The subject of God is much deeper and wider and most people think, and most people's knowledge and experience of it is very superficial, and they like to keep it that way. They have never tried to climb up the ladder of consciousness and peek over the edge of the world, because they are afraid of what they might find there. Remember, too, atheism is a faith based belief system, because it is logically impossible to prove a negative; you can never logically prove God doesn't exist, therefore, you have to accept that He doesn’t exist on faith. It is a belief, not a certainty, and can never logically be a certainty.

  5. RE: Family Matters...?

    Posted on July 07, 2012 at 05:20 AM (UTC) ( 11 months ago )
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    A45e04cd94035d6b2a5f47ecf497749f

    wrote the following:

    Don't sweat it. I personally do believe in God however that isn't everyones belief. This is a free world and we are all intitled to feel and act however we please. I'm sure that if you calmly and understandingly talk with your family, they will understand you. I feel that as long as you believe in a higher power of some sort and are giving yourself a will to live a happy life, then there is nothing wrong with your beliefs or who you are. Keep Smiling Dear :)

  6. RE: Family Matters...?

    Posted on July 12, 2012 at 02:14 AM (UTC) ( 10 months ago )
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    2ebd18c06c3620b57ccd8047138eb200

    wrote the following:

    you can have your own views, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be open to others. If you live life with only one point of view, you miss all the other points.

  7. RE: Family Matters...?

    Posted on July 16, 2012 at 04:16 AM (UTC) ( 10 months ago )
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    Ee89ab62a98cad40fa65a9a03bda8e97

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    i agree completely. i got confirmed and i was sitting there the whole time saying that things happened differently. there might be no getting around getting confirmed. but it doesnt mean much. for example anytime my family eats dinner, they'll say prayer and ill mumble. we dont go to church and quite frankly, the next generation wont really be going to church either. just hang in there really. maybe look up what you really believe in and tell your family when the topic comes up. but dont be rude about it. religion is a powerful subject. nobody should force you upon something you dont believe in. so just bring it up one time. let it all out.