continued... The four-year mutual crush or the two-year relashionship?

Posted on May 05, 2008 at 03:19 PM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago);
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i thought i was over it. My crush and I decided not to talk, not to keep in touch because it would be not fair to our significan others. I thought I was getting completely over him, slowly stopped wanting to text him, removed him from friends on facebook to avoid the temptation... but what do you know! It's still there...  I had a dream about him last night...  It was his birthday, I went over to his room to wish him happy birthday and somehow ended up kissing him. It was the sweetest kiss ever. There was so much longing felt by the both of us, that that kiss was like being in heaven. Even in the dream though, we both knew it was wrong, we were both still in relationships. Until this stupid dream, i was happy with my boyfriend, and now this crush comes back!!  Do I keep going trying to ignore it? Or do I not move in with my boyfriend because my subcounsciousness is telling me to pursue my crush? I love my bofriend very much and I'm quite willing to accept that last night was just a dream, nothing more... but was it?

 

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  1. RE: continued... The four-year mutual crush or the two-year relashionship?

    Posted on May 05, 2008 at 04:14 PM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago )
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    08c2490dfad731a16026cbcd635b2eeb

    wrote the following:

    nobody cares about your crush sorry talkabout something more exciteing cause your lifes SUCKS ASS

  2. RE: continued... The four-year mutual crush or the two-year relashionship?

    Posted on May 06, 2008 at 01:37 AM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago )
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    Eb3723513e68f8fc533098afd50d21bd

    wrote the following:

    I think that all depends on where you feel your current relationship is going. Its a tough one...we all debate with ourselves between temptation and the unknown. If your crush is a good person, treats you (and others) well, and seems to feel the same way, then you might want to follow your gut and go for it. You can't avoid hurt feelings on the other ends of each of your current relationships, but the sooner the better, and the more time they will have to get over it. I commend you for not cheating (it sounds like you haven't). Just don't cheat yourself for the sake of comfort or the fear of upsetting your boyfriend. Maybe you could make a list and weigh the qualities you enjoy about both. Sounds corny, but it might help you with the decision. And it will also help you evaluate whether it is more than just a fantasy.

  3. RE: continued... The four-year mutual crush or the two-year relashionship?

    Posted on May 10, 2008 at 09:31 PM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago )
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    420dff08ea7d337a22619d7ed40989b8

    wrote the following:

    we all have tht one person we cant get over, so i suggest just leave the crush alone if uve found a way to help u get over it. chances r the crush wouldnt work out anyway if it hasnt worked out b4.

  4. RE: continued... The four-year mutual crush or the two-year relashionship?

    Posted on June 04, 2008 at 07:48 PM (UTC) ( almost 5 years ago )
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    04934fa6b66d9dd09897e673e0092e4c

    wrote the following:

    Fifty years from now, you don't want to look back on your life wondering "What if", do you?

    Call him up, see how he's doing, whether he's single or not, etc. Everything you need to know about if you should pursue him, or not, will be found out in that call.

  5. RE: continued... The four-year mutual crush or the two-year relashionship?

    Posted on May 10, 2011 at 05:48 PM (UTC) ( about 2 years ago )
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    B36705012109f345726bff9a3e8eb4ec

    wrote the following:

    you are a horrible human being