I used to be an escort.

Posted on February 28, 2008 at 07:05 PM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago);
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  When i turned 18, and went to uni, i wanted some extra cash and decided to become an escort. It's legal over here, but escort is just a fancy word for prostitute. Anyway, i slept with about 30 men in total, one as old as 65. And most of them were probably married.  I will probably get a lot of abuse for saying this, but i really don't feel ashamed. At least i don't think so. Should I? I just keep thinking, if it wasn't with me, it would be someone else. Anyway I got 150 an hour, 1000 overnight, which is a lot of money when your studying and don't have a job. Also being an escort for a short period really gave me a very different life experience, and really changed me/ matured me as a person. It also helped me to understant men a lot more.  I'm only sorry for the wives that were hurt. But the men came to me, i never went after them. A lot of the time, i didn't even know their real names, and they never knew mine.  I'm a very liberal person, and also believe that if women are willing to provide to male needs for payment, then this in no way degrades them. It in no way degraded me, and i stopped working when i had enough money in the bank to get me through my studies comfortably and when i met my long term boyfriend. I just wish escorts didn't have such a bad name. Apart from those who are religious and believe that sex is a sanctity of marraige, i don't believe that people should see it as such a bad choice of career. Let him without sin cast the first stone.Even worthy biblical historical figures had concubines, its one of the oldest jobs in history. I wish people wouldn't judge me, even though very few people know in my life, just the fact that people out there hate the whores, the escorts, the hookers, the prostitutes. What right do they have to know the individual person? the ones who are educated, safe, clean, drug free and moral in all other aspects? does anyone else out there share these liberal views? If you want to grill me and tell me off for being a bad person, a husband stealer, imoral, then please go ahead. But i know in my heart that i am a loving and caring person, and that it was not my action that hurt others, it was the men who came to me. 

 

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  1. RE: I used to be an escort.

    Posted on February 28, 2008 at 09:28 PM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago )
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    If you were married, would you want your husband sleeping with prostitutes? It sounds a little like you might be trying to justify what you have done. They may have come to you, but that still does not make it right on your part. I think it is obviously a sign the married ones have problems and sleeping with prostitutes only makes it worse. Also, if men didn't have the option and couldn't be with prostitutes it would probably force them to work things out with thier wives. These men didn't just betray a marriage, they betrayed an entire family and you helped.

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      Posted on February 29, 2008 at 12:19 AM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago )
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      wrote the following:

      Believe me, if men didn't have the option and couldn't be with prostitutes, they'd find someone to sleep with, possibly someone with whom they have an emotional bond, which is even worse.  It's not her responsibility to look out for these marriages.  It's the responsibility of the people in the marriages.  For her, it was just business.

    • RE: I used to be an escort.

      Posted on June 17, 2010 at 12:25 AM (UTC) ( almost 3 years ago )
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      wrote the following:

      ^^^^

      I tihnk that you are wrong, i think that what she did she did for herself not any other reason. Those men chose to go to her, and i dont think any man can be forced into fixing something they dont want to. She did help betray a family, this was her JOB, you have a JOB, everyone has a JOB and some of us are not as fortunate as you are to be able to live off our husbands. We have student loans and bills and some of us living on our own think that this is a great way to make money. Those men would  have gone to a different Escort if she wasnt available., so truley she did help, and what their children dont know doesnt hurt them, what about your kids relative anyone, do your kids know about your sex life? I wouldnt want to know about my parents sex life, so really how does that hurt them..... Even the parents divorced well so be it, it a lot of cases it's better for the children if the family slpits than if they stay together. 

       

       

      Way up there, im with you girl! you did what you needed too to take care of yourself i am thinking about doing the same thing, i need to get through shcool and i was recently told that my parents are moving and not taking me, i have a month to move out and find my own place, and be bale to support myself. 

    • RE: I used to be an escort.

      Posted on October 24, 2010 at 07:34 PM (UTC) ( over 2 years ago )
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      wrote the following:

      i disagree. men that want to cheat will. if not with prostitutes,w ith other women, neighbours, collegues, ext.

      i myself was an escort, im 21, and i did it for abotu 6 months.I made enough money to travel. And now i live in Europe and have a totally different life.

      i dont feel ashamed, but some how society tells me i should. I didnt make anyone sleep with me. THey made their own choices just like i made mine. 

    • RE: I used to be an escort.

      Posted on March 25, 2013 at 09:32 AM (UTC) ( 2 months ago )
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      First off, get a grip on reality here. It's a job. She didn't beg these men she provided a service. If their wifes would take care of their men and marriage in the first place they wouldn't be seeking out services elsewhere. She did nothing to contribute to the end of a marriage. That falls on the man and their wife. If you don't want your man seeing a provider of any of these services, then respect your man, treat him with dignity and be willing to experiment to take care of his sexual needs. You want to save your marriage, Do it but don't blame a provider for it failing. The provider didn't and doesn't cause the problem that creates business for her. Accept it or don't but it's truth either way.

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    Posted on February 29, 2008 at 12:07 AM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago )
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    3e3a5a71060768f7c12f718b18a476d4

    wrote the following:

    I agree with you... While I don't think that prostitution is a good thing or something I would like to do, hey more power to ya! If you are a safe, moral, drug-free, upright citizen then its just sex right. Don't feel bad, the people judging you are the ones that aren't intelligent or intellectual enough to understand the other side of the story.

    • RE: I used to be an escort.

      Posted on February 29, 2008 at 01:17 PM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago )
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      3616ca1ff2a91b1f7086a8aee8c55a96

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      Not intelligent enough? Why, because I have morals and know the difference between right and wrong? Are any of you who responded married? Sex is not just sex. The bottom line is that prostitution is NOT safe and moral. Can anyone answer the question, " Would it be okay if your husband (or wife) had sex with a prostitute?"

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        Posted on February 29, 2008 at 03:39 PM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago )
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        It would not be okay with me for my husband to have sex with a prostitute, but I would hold my husband responsible for his actions, not the prostitute. 

        The reason that prostitution is not safe in this country is because it is criminalized.  Without police protection, the girls have to rely on pimps to protect them, pimps who often get them hooked on drugs so they also have to rely on them for their supply.  The girls hardly get enough of the money that they earned to live, much less get checked out by a doctor and be tested for STD's. 

        People should be allowed to decide for themselves what they want to do with their bodies, and whether or not sex is valuable to them or not.  For myself, I value sex too highly to ever charge money for it.  Someone else may not. 

        As far as it being moral or not, well, even the OP stated in so many words that she understood if people thought it was immoral for religious reasons.  But that is also a very personal thing that people should be allowed to decide for themselves.  And no, I don't believe that you disagreeing with it means that you are unintelligent, but the government should not legislate morality. 

        • RE: I used to be an escort.

          Posted on February 29, 2008 at 05:12 PM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago )
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          3616ca1ff2a91b1f7086a8aee8c55a96

          wrote the following:

          Well, too many people like you straddle the fence. On one hand, you think it is wrong for your husband to do it, on the other hand it's ok for everyone else. There comes a point to where wrong is just wrong.

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        Posted on March 25, 2013 at 09:42 AM (UTC) ( 2 months ago )
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        To the person who wrote "Not intelligent enough? Why, because I have morals and know the difference between right and wrong? Are any of you who responded married? Sex is not just sex. The bottom line is that prostitution is NOT safe and moral. Can anyone answer the question, " Would it be okay if your husband (or wife) had sex with a prostitute?" Obviously you think you have morals but pick and choose which ones you take to heart. I know the difference of right and wrong but that doesn't mean that I let other people dictate my right and wrong. Who told you this was wrong? Why? Yes I am married (12) years, I have also been an escort for 15 plus years and my husband and I have 8 children and one hell of a healthy marriage and no secrets. My Husband did leave me for a prostitute for 3 months so to answer your question there, I've lived through it and the marriage is stronger now. I don't blame the hooker I blame my husband and myself. We let the relationship deteriorate till neither of us were happy, he chose to go elsewhere. It hurt but it also woke me the hell up. Men see hookers because they don't nag, there is no responsibility, they don't insult them, they treat them well and they meet there needs. Problem lies with the wives. Stop blaming the women who are doing what most women don't.

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    Posted on March 04, 2008 at 04:13 AM (UTC) ( about 5 years ago )
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    wrote the following:

    I'm not going to condemn you because, first off there is no point, and secondly because it was your choice, just like it was their's.  People can cut you down all they want, but as the Bible says...Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

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    Posted on July 27, 2010 at 06:26 AM (UTC) ( almost 3 years ago )
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    I think that girls like yourself must have no respect for themselves.  I also am a FT student but never would put myself in the situation of sleeping with someones husband and someones Daddy.  I was raised to have men respect you and that education and hard work and morals was the way to get this.  My Daddy put this in my head at a very young age. The ones at home do not deserve the pain of knowing that your daddy slept with someone your age just for the sex nothing else. These men look at you as nothing more then an object that will let anyone screw them for money.  That to me is so wrong.  I will ask each and everyone of you that thinks that it is easy money, well in the long run you will pay dearly for your choices. If not while you are breathing, then when you have to answer to God about adultery and if you really are that stupid to not have known now that you are sleeping with someone that is married.  Hope that someday when you share your work history with your daughter that she will be proud of you just don't leave this chapter out if you can not be open with what you do with everyone you love then you know it is wrong.  

  5. RE: I used to be an escort.

    Posted on March 12, 2012 at 05:51 AM (UTC) ( about 1 year ago )
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    wrote the following:

    This what you wrote I believe might be my exact thoughts and experiences.  Reading this has helped me alot.  I feel like recently I have been struggling with the fact that I used to escort and Ive been so confused as to why I dont feel much shame either..I mean Im not proud of it I guess but Ive always been curious about the type of lifestyle, and business.  It definetly is a different world and theres can be some danger going along with it but I think maybe thats the reason I was so concerned while doing it. 

    Anyways, while I was escorting I was going thru a stage I guess but it taught me alot of new, different things and perspectives that u could only learn from doing something that alot of people consider degrading and what not but really its an experience and even taught me to be alot more comfortable with my sexuality. 

    The only reason I stopped was because it got to be extremely difficult trying to keep secret from this guy I had gotten to know for quite some time once we started getting serious.  However, I dont think I could bring myself to letting him in on my secret? hmmm it would be great if I could get a reply back if u ever told your boyfriend..not necessary but interesting! 

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      Posted on June 10, 2012 at 04:27 AM (UTC) ( 12 months ago )
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      I just came across this blog, and just wanted to give my insight on it, even with no expierience. People have and use sex for there own satisfaction, regardless if it is for money, being in a relationship, married, or just to have fun (one night stands, ect ..). If the individuals are consenting to it, nobody is getting hurt, there is an agreement, everything is perfectly normal with no problem, and everyone is happy with it, there shouldn't be an issue. When your having sex for your own satisfaction needs whatever it may be, why is it that it is looked down upon in society to do it for money? If you choose to do it for money, it is satisfying you in your needs, and it serving something for your life at that time, what is the issue? For example if you are horny ( and not an escort) you went to a bar met a guy, brought him home and slept with him, that right there is just an example of you doing something to please yourself. Regardless of what aspect it is. In regards to escorts ruining marriages, remember **PEOPLE LIE ALL THE TIME** It's inevitable. An escort is not a detective. When you choose to trust and believe someone, you cannot stop them from doing whatever they want to do. In the end they are there own person. If this world was lived in with no money, (minus everything that would come with it, where talking about the sex aspect) there are people would still sleep with different individuals for just there own personal satisfaction. REGARDLESS IF IT IS FOR LOVE OR NOT. Not everybodys path walks in a straight line, things do happen and people do change there are circumstances. Even if you choose to sleep with ONE MAN when you are married, and have a family. Things can possibly change, he might not be in love with you(vice versa) and you guys choose to go your seperate ways and find new people. You are sharing yourself with more then one individual. I don't condone NOT having respect for yourself or your body, but if everything is done in a healthy right safe manner, there shouldn't be an issue. There are ALOT of jobs out there that arn't healthy for you, that do put your life at risk. It's all the same IDEA but just a different aspect on things. Escorting is focusing on the sexual aspect of life, and every other job focuses on what it needs to focus on in life. All I AM SAYING IS NO ONE IS TO JUDGE. (This is how I view things in society's world , not in gods way) If your going into the religious part on things, if you have already had sex before your married, you have absaloutley NO RIGHT to judge an escort. Because all escorts and even pimps are fornicators. Also the couples who just "live together" according to the Bible, are committing the same sin that an escort commits. Singles who "make love" fall into the exact same category. So if you truly want to judge just READ THE BIBLE then think twice. Remember in gods eyes NO SIN IS GREATER THEN ANOTHER. God hates sin but ... He loves the sinner.

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        Posted on June 10, 2012 at 05:03 AM (UTC) ( 12 months ago )
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        **** Also adding to the top post ***** Being said THATS JUST MY PERSPECTIVE ON SOCIETYS / JOB BUSINESS ASPECT ON THINGS. AND SOME OF MY RELIGIOUS VIEWS ON THINGS ASWELL. If an escort chooses to make a buisness out of herself / himself that is THEIR CHOICE . They have there own reasons behind it. In life CHEATING, STEALING, AND LYING IN GENERAL , IN SELFISHNESS, OR TO GAIN SOMETHING OUT OF IT IS NEVER EVER THE RIGHT WAY.NOT CARING ABOUT HOW YOUR HURTING OTHER PEOPLE IS NEVER THE RIGHT WAY.

        • RE: I used to be an escort.

          Posted on March 25, 2013 at 09:28 AM (UTC) ( 2 months ago )
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          4dfc617d332f752a7f6fd97846eb20ec

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          You know, if you want to say prostitutes and escorts are the same, that's on you. Just know you insult those of us who are legit escorts who don't spread our legs for cash. Next time use the proper term, you were a whore, nothing wrong with being a whore but don't try to clean it up or confuse people by calling yourself an escort which you clearly were not. Sincerely, A real Escort ravengypsy.net

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