Age and Distance

Posted on February 07, 2010 at 07:41 PM (PST) ( 6 months ago);
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I'm in a little bit of a pickle. I am a 19 year old guy and a freshman in college. I like this girl who is a freshman in high school. I know it's quite a gap in age, but she is way mature for her age, and she even knows what she wants to go to college for. We have been talking to each other for almost three months now and we both have confessed that we like each other. We have two issues on our hands. One, distance. My college from my hometown where she lives, is two hours away. Nothing major, but is still classified as a long distance relationship in my eyes. Two, her mother. I don't think her mother would ever approve of us seeing each other. Even though I have yet to meet parents that haven't liked me. And I guess I have an issue on my side of the story. She said she likes to "have fun", which means she likes to hook up with guys and doesn't really see that she could do that with the one she likes, which is me. Is it right to be mad or a little jealous that she likes to hook up with guys even though we like each other? Is age difference that big of a deal if we both don't mind it? Anybodies thoughts about my situation are welcome. Thanks!

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  1. RE: Age and Distance

    Posted on February 09, 2010 at 01:18 AM (PST) ( 6 months ago )
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    She is not ready for a realationship. though you might think she is mature the turth is she is still finding herself and experienceing life. If she is tied down to a relationship at a young age she might regret or even resent you for lack of experience with guys. I know this because I got engaged to my husband at seventeen and he was twenty-four..

    The difference with me dating a guy older is that i was ready because i didnt want to date .. i did not have experience in the dating field too much but i knew it wasnt for me...i knew i just wanted to find one person to spend my life with.

    but to wrap things up...i do not think you guys should get involved with eachother because

    1. you guys have feelings for eachother to jusst "hookup" and then try to be chill after that, it will get too awkward and too messy

    2.right now she is getting her life experience just like what you were probably doing at her age. Let her get that out of her system and ithen try to see if you guys can date. in the mean time you try dating other people..and who knows you might like someone else who is willing to commit to you 

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  2. RE: Age and Distance

    Posted on February 14, 2010 at 10:21 PM (PST) ( 6 months ago )
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    wrote the following:

    If she is the one for you, she is worth waiting for. Tell her to call you when she's 18. 

     

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