Posted on February 06, 2010 at 08:51 PM (PST)
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ok, i'm stuck in a relationship with a man that i really love, but i'm also trying to be independent and free from stress, i know that if i marry him i will have to have kids and get more stress, i don't know if it's worth it to live with him or not, i like to be a carefree person, i do not know what i really want anymore, my heart is undecided, i'm lost, what should i do to get somewhere, what should i say to him if i can't be with him? what would you do if you really love someone but have to let him/her go? my family doesn't like him and doesn't approve of me getting married to him, i'm single and i'm a virgin and i'm 19 years old, he's a single parent with a 3 year old boy and he's 33 years old, i feel so miserable right now because i just want to love him so much but i can't, it's a tough decision for me, i really care about him and i would do anything to make him happy, but i do not want to disgrace my family if he doesn't love me because i don't want to go back to my family and beg them for shelter and support, fuck my life, i want to run away really bad, just disappear so no one will know where i am anymore
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4 responses to love or freedom? help me choose
RE: love or freedom? help me choose
Posted on February 07, 2010 at 06:52 PM (PST) ( about 1 month ago )wrote the following:
Let me start out that 19 and 33 will not end well. I know you probably hear this constanly but its the truth. Your 19!!! You still have a whole life ahead of you. Why should you give up your freedom to have his children. And your family is always number one. Because they will always have your back no matter what. Trust me when I say I understand your pressure. I'm 20 and I'm a virgin as well. Its been two years since I had a relationship. You just feel the pressure of all the love and couples around you that all you want is to be loved in return. You want the attention. This man shows you the attention that you seek but trust me when I say you will have your love soon. This guy has a child already. Since you know you dont want one... this will only add stress. Tell him to wait. If he truly loves you than he will. He will see how marriage will only be a label right now. Its whats written in between your vows. The idea. Trust me please. I beg you. My Advice: Choose Freedom. You have an entire life ahead of you. Don't throw it away because someone is giving you attention and you just want to relieve your pressure. I beg you to consider my words. Freedom
RE: love or freedom? help me choose
Posted on March 02, 2010 at 07:55 PM (PST) ( 8 days ago )wrote the following:
thank you so much XD
RE: love or freedom? help me choose
Posted on February 14, 2010 at 10:29 PM (PST) ( 24 days ago )wrote the following:
God forbid, a little stress will kill you. Boo fucking hoo.
Look, you need to grow up and in a hurry, and take on responsibility and independence. Your carefree days are over missy.
Get a job (if you don't have one), get your own place and your own car, and do your own thing for a year or two. If he's the right one it will work out. You don't have to let him go, and you can always tell your family to fuck off.
RE: love or freedom? help me choose
Posted on March 02, 2010 at 07:57 PM (PST) ( 8 days ago )wrote the following:
i agree, i have a job already, but i should be living on my own, hahaha i guess i got a lot of growing up to do