Posted on August 31, 2008 at 04:50 PM (PDT)
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Adults have the power to control their own weight. Whether one chooses to use that power is a personal decision. However, I can't STAND it when a woman uses a certain excuse. "I have babies. It's baby fat." Yeah right. Most women I hear say this, their babies are atleast 5 years old!!! They're NOT babies anymore!! You've had 4 1/2 years to lose that "baby fat." Gimme a fuckin' break!! Stop using "I have kids" as an excuse for being overweight. Like I said, it's just a damn excuse, and there's no good reason for it!!!! I have 3 kids, and I look great, because I KNOW how to TAKE CONTROL of my life, including my weight. I know how to eat right and excercise, and NOT use my kids as an excuse for extra fat. I recently heard from a friend of mine and I quote "Yeah, I'm fluffy. It is all for a great reason, and my kids make it all worth while.". You guessed it, she was tiny before she had kids. Now that she has 3 of them, she uses her kids as a fucking excuse for being "fluffy". Her "fluffy" is medically considered borderline obese. WTF???????????? Damn, is her lack of diet and excercise really gonna cut it when she's on her death bed because of weight related health issues? What, is she gonna look at her kids and say "Yeah, mommy's fluffy, and now she's dying because I didn't want to lose the weight I gained when I was pregnant with y'all."? BULLSHIT.
So, my point is STOP USING THAT PATHETIC EXCUSE!!!!!!!! GET OFF YOUR ASS, AND LOSE THAT BABY WEIGHT.
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15 responses to It's just an excuse.
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on August 31, 2008 at 09:51 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
You're right, it's an excuse that many women hide behind to explain why they haven't lost their weight.
You certainly deserve credit for taking control of your life and weight, many women find it difficult and it is often taken for granted when a woman does that and not really noticed as well as it should be.
I think you may be taking other women's weight issues a little personally though. It's not a relfection on you if they make excuses, if anything it makes you look better, so take a deep breath and remember that you love your friends for who they are, not how much they weigh, and maybe try to voice your opinion on their excuse in a way that won't ruin the friendship.
Maybe the next time she says she's "fluffy" you could mention that gradually loosing that "fluff" would be a good way to spend more years with them, or just off-handedly offer to take walks with her on a schedule.
But, maybe the annonymous venting helped you feel better too :)
You probably shouldn't totally bottle up your feelings though, because you do have a valid concern, especially if your firend is near obesity.
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 02, 2008 at 07:31 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
Thank you for understanding my p.o.v. I do tend to take it personally, since I lost both my parents only 2 years apart due to their weight related issues. I don't think anyone should lose their parents, especially like that. We have no control over cancer, MS, MD, ALS, or any other diseases with no cures, but we DO have control over our bodies and lifestyles. My "fluffy" friend didn't orally say that, it was in a short, sweet, simple blog containing nothing but those words. I love her as a person, and she's a great parent to her 3 kids. I would love to take her on my walks, or with me to my gym. She'll find her overall health get better, and it WILL add years for her to spend with her kids. Once again, thank you.
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 10, 2008 at 04:23 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
Well you've certainly riled someone up! The thing I think they're not seeing is that I don't believe the underlying purpose of your coment was that your friend should account to you for her weight. The problem with the excuse is that your friend and people like her who haven't taken charge of their lives need to stop making the excuses to themselves, not to other people. If they stopped waking up in the morning and saying "Oh well, I'm fat, that's just how it is." and instead said "Today I'm going to start getting more healthy." or did something to gradually loose the weight, they'd be healthier. It is true though that thin doesn't mean healthy. but it is much more likely for someone who is severely overweight to have health problems than someone who's thin who doesn't excercise. I think someone took umbrage to your venting your frustrations in an anonymous forum, but clearly if you were so shallow as to completely judge people by their appearance you would not still be friends with the woman you spoke of, unfortunately I have known some people who are that shallow.
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on August 31, 2008 at 09:52 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
I'm a normal weight, and I work my ASS off to be that way, but guess what? I don't give a fuck what anyone else weighs because it's none of my fucking business, and it's none of your fucking business, either. The fact is that nobody needs an "excuse" to be fat, because they don't owe YOU any explanation. Get your head out of your own ass and stop being such a shallow bitch all the time and maybe you'd get to know people for who they are inside, instead of caring so much about what they look like.
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 02, 2008 at 07:27 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
Well guess what? I HAVE a damn good excuse for being a "bitch with my head up my ass". I lost BOTH my parents because of their weight related issues. I loved them to no end, and still do many years after their death. Oh yeah, they only died 2 years apart when I was a teenager. So, until you've walked in MY shoes and REALLY know why I ranted on this, get YOUR HEAD outta YOUR ASS. I DO care about people on the inside, and it's being overweight that RUINS the inside physically, or do you not know something so elementary????
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 03, 2008 at 03:19 AM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
None of that changes the fact that people make choices about how they live, and they don't owe YOU any explanation for it. If it was truly about health, then you wouldn't "applaud" the commentor below me who "eats fast food and doesn't exercise at all" just because she is skinny. Being thin doesn't make you healthy. When you eat crap and live a sedentary lifestyle, guess what? You can still have heart problems even if your weight falls in the normal range, while there are overweight people who eat more healthfully and exercise regularly, and because their metabolism is lower, still carry more weight. Weight is not the only measure of health.
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 01, 2008 at 05:57 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
well.....im feeling really good right now... i have four children and im 5'6 and 121... i eat fast food, and i dont execise at all...... i was just blessed with an extremely high metabolism..... :)
but i definitely understand your point...... children are not an excuse to let yourself become fat and sloppy.
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 02, 2008 at 07:32 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
We're some of the lucky few that have that natural ability to lose weight. I applaud you, especially with having 4 children!! Thank you for your understanding.
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 01, 2008 at 11:27 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT!
EVERYONE IS NOT LIKE YOU.
Get over yourself..
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 02, 2008 at 07:36 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
I'm not STUPID. I'm not SHALLOW. I see the REALITY of the obesity epidemic spreading across the ENTIRE COUNTRY. I KNOW everyone's NOT like me. I KNOW everyone IS different. I also KNOW that my parents DIED because of their WEIGHT. If I can keep OTHER kids from losing a PARENT to something that's within their CONTROL, then SO BE IT. Why don't you GET OVER YOUR POMPOUS ASS.
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 03, 2008 at 12:37 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
hey hey hey...dont go tryna take away my applause...lol
no but seriously i do realize that im blessed and i see that my kids arent like me body wise and i make them eat a more healthy diet. I eat my junk on my own time and although we aren't health nuts, they do know that fruits and veggies are better than fast food any day and that they need to be active and not lay around during all their spare time. I have an over weight sister and it kills me because she cant even walk too far before she is jus done....... she cant interact with my children normally because she says "they are too active for me"... its sad and is a real cause for concern......so original poster i understand you 1000% and the other commenter ...hmmmm-- dont have anything to say to you!!
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 05, 2008 at 08:23 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
Well, I'm glad YOU'RE so fucking together.
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 06, 2008 at 01:46 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
hmmmmm do i detect a little hint of jealousy??????
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 06, 2008 at 02:13 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
A hint, as in a boxcar full of Big Mac's.....
RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 08, 2008 at 04:27 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
lol......