My marine man

Posted on August 21, 2012 at 05:09 PM (UTC) ( 9 months ago);
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wrote the following:

I'm really desperate for some advice here. I'm 20, I've had a few bad relationships over the years which have left me slightly emotionally scarred and doubting that I'll ever find true love. I know a few of you will go "oh you're young, you don't know about life" but I'm old for my age, I've had to grow up quickly due to particular circumstances. However recently I think I've fallen in love, Mr Right and myself have known each other for around 6 years but haven't talked much for the last two due to being in different colleges. But in the last 4 months we've suddenly started talking a lot. We are a couple now and I think he loves me too. I really think he is the one, I've never felt like this for anyone before and I can imagine us having a fantastic future. However he's joining the marines, he's going away in October and that's when it officially begins so I will hardly see him. I don't want him to go, I want him to stay with me but it's his dream and I only want him to be happy. We will probably have to break up when he leaves because there would be no point in us being together if he is always abroad or training. It's just hard because I really think he's the one, I want to convince him to stay with me so I will be happy but I know he won't be happy because he wants to go to the marines even though he does love me. What should I do?

 

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  1. RE: My marine man

    Posted on August 21, 2012 at 09:54 PM (UTC) ( 9 months ago )
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    If you think he's the one and if you're right, then distance wont matter. Your love will stay forever. You will barely see him, but there will be times where he does come back. I think you should tell him how you really feel about him and tell him how all this makes you feel. Let him know that you want him to be happy, but you want to be able to see him.

    • RE: My marine man

      Posted on August 22, 2012 at 03:16 PM (UTC) ( 9 months ago )
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      wrote the following:

      distance does matter..i madly loved a guy and he too...but now we are far apart...hardly do we talk to eac other...long distance sucks and if ur not able to give time it ruins...

      • RE: My marine man

        Posted on August 23, 2012 at 05:55 PM (UTC) ( 9 months ago )
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        F6f4255b1ecd6d4374cacd7305fca65f

        wrote the following:

        How do you cope? Without seeing each other or hardly talking? When you think about him and think about memories together doesn't it hurt? Thinking that you're not having that now? That's what would depress me the most. Sorry if I put a downer on that.

    • RE: My marine man

      Posted on August 23, 2012 at 06:10 PM (UTC) ( 9 months ago )
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      F6f4255b1ecd6d4374cacd7305fca65f

      wrote the following:

      Thank you for the advice. I know some people say "absence makes the heart grow stronger" but it would just be depressing thinking about him. When we're together it's like we're in our own little bubble and nothing else in the world matters, I just don't want to give that up. My selfish side wants to make him stay with me, but I know he won't truly be happy, he will feel unfulfilled and like he's missed on an opportunity. But then I think what if I do wait for him and after 7-8 years of service he comes back a different man? And those feelings are no longer there but I've already waited so long. There are so many thoughts going through my mind and it's so difficult to think of one thing to focus on. In the beginning of our relationship he told me that while he was away he would want me to find a nice man and have a family, but I only want him, I know I only want him, and I don't think he wants me to do that any more because he's starting getting jealous of other guys. I really don't know. Which is obviously why I'm looking for advice.

  2. RE: My marine man

    Posted on August 22, 2012 at 09:53 PM (UTC) ( 9 months ago )
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    wrote the following:

    He can't be the one if you wont wait.

    • RE: My marine man

      Posted on August 23, 2012 at 05:58 PM (UTC) ( 9 months ago )
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      F6f4255b1ecd6d4374cacd7305fca65f

      wrote the following:

      I never said I won't wait. I'm just trying to weigh up the pros and cons and what to do, I'm trying to figure out if I'll just end up more hurt than anything and looking for constructive advice if you're willing to give it.