Lost hope in being in a relationship

Posted on August 09, 2012 at 07:52 AM (UTC) ( 10 months ago);
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I dont think i can trust women anymore, Every girl i talk to lies about small insignificant things or VERY sever things, Has cheated at least once (always more then once), Try to juggle men (example. Talking to a girl i was showing interest in and she was doing the same, but later i find out shes talking to me the exact same way she was talking to 3 others guys...) Am i wrong to assume that all women cant be trusted and that this day and age does not hold love but only lust and lies? I dont want to give up on the idea of that there is someone out there for me but in my experience with past relationships iv been cheated on every time, and that had damaged my thoughts and opinions on all women, and not a single woman has proven my ideas wrong only enforced them more and more the more i ask questions... I have NEVER cheated on a girl, never lied, only opened my heart just so they can smash it ... I really need some opinions and advice on if my thoughts are wrong or misguided

 

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  1. RE: Lost hope in being in a relationship

    Posted on August 09, 2012 at 02:48 PM (UTC) ( 10 months ago )
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    Honestly man, I want to tell you more than anything that there is hope. But it seems like the older I get, the less naive I'm becoming. And truthfully, I don't know about it anymore. I've always held the belief that there is someone out there for everyone. So I would say to keep your head up, but if anything, put a helmet on :P What I mean is that yeah you can be hopeful about the future. Don't give up. But also, don't be naive. I've been cheated on in all past relationships too. Just prepare yourself. Don't open up to a girl too soon, and don't make her everything right away (so that in case she is lying or cheating, at least you won't be hurt as much)

  2. RE: Lost hope in being in a relationship

    Posted on August 09, 2012 at 06:02 PM (UTC) ( 10 months ago )
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    The first reply has a good point, don't be naive but do keep your chin up. I am a woman and I can tell you I am pretty disgusted with how most women today act. But here I am telling you there are cool chicks out there. Honest ones who won't pull that crap. But its a good idea to not open up to fast take it really chill and you will find the more you force yourself to be chill and go slow the easier it is and you will not get hurt as easily. Good luck to you.

  3. RE: Lost hope in being in a relationship

    Posted on August 10, 2012 at 03:24 AM (UTC) ( 10 months ago )
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    I seem to find myself in the same boat as you sometimes when I get down... It seems like all I have ever had is men who turn out to be scum and liars and cheaters. I have said at times that I'm done with trying relationships. I've said I'd rather be alone then to deal with it anymore. But at some point loneliness kicks in, not just for me but for anyone. No one really wants to be alone... they just want the right person. Its hard now days to find anyone that is worth giving your heart to. You just have to be a little guarded until you know for sure who you are with. Give just enough, not too little and not too much... The right one will find you when you aren't looking. As far as the cheating thing goes... I admit it, I did once... I was 15, and he was my first serious boyfriend... I didn't know what I was doing but I told him about it the very next day and let him decide if he wanted to work through it or if he wanted to leave. We ended up staying together for 2 years but what I had done always hung over our heads... He had trouble trusting me again and I had to live with what I had done. Never again would I do that! It hurts to know that you hurt someone like that... or at least it does me... That being said I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. I believe if it happens once you either learn from it or you don't care enough to not do it again. Now that I am older, I have come to realize that if you feel the need to cheat, then you might as well just end it because that means that you are not happy and or satisfied with what you have, and there is no reason to continue to waste each others time and life... It looks like we have had the bad relationships in common and I understand how you feel, but don't give up! One day you will find the right one! I have faith that we all will, but you gotta have relationships to learn from relationships... Good Luck

  4. RE: Lost hope in being in a relationship

    Posted on August 13, 2012 at 03:22 AM (UTC) ( 10 months ago )
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    I don't want to you take this as an Insult or anything so please don't. But you are wrong. That is my very blunt answer. I can see your trust has been dissolved, and that is perfectly fine. Those women did things wrong and they made bad choices, but that was just those women. Not all women, so don't quit trusting completely. Give yourself some time to start trusting again before you try to date again, then when the time comes you will find the women for you. :)