My first time.

Posted on August 04, 2012 at 07:46 AM (UTC) ( 10 months ago);
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Okay, so I am a 22 year old women. And a virgin. I have been seeing this guy for about six mounths or so, It might be a little longer I havent been keeping track. And I finaly have made the decision to go through with it and sleep with him. I finaly feel like both my mind and body are ready for it. And the fact is that I feel like hes the right one to lose it to. I feel like all of this sounds stupid written out like this, but its just how I have felt about it. The thing that I need some advise on is that, well hes not a virgin. And that does not bother me but well, I am worried about the entire STD thing. The fact that I did not have that discussion with my previous boyfriends has left me ill equipped to have that conversation. In particuler, how to bring it up. He knows that he would be my first I have mentioned that fact to him, he was not bothered by it. And now I just want to know about the health factor. I want him, I just dont want something that will follow me my entire life and any other relasionships that I my have in the future. But I just want to know how I can bring that up and not make it feel like I am accuseing him of something. Like a nice way of asking about it. Just that, I dont really need to know how many girls hes been with. If you have some advise please comment. Thank you. A.

 

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  1. RE: My first time.

    Posted on August 04, 2012 at 06:05 PM (UTC) ( 10 months ago )
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    First of all, congratulations on wanting to be sexually responsible. Your awareness of STD's can always be supplemented by talking to your doctor or a helthcare professional who deals with such matters (e.g. Planned Parenthood, school psychiatrist/nurse or counselor). These people are under oath to keep what you talk about with them strictly confidential. As far as talking to your potential sexual partner about STD's, I suggest being as upfront as possible about it. You are right to be concerned about your health. There is nothing wrong with you bringing the subject up. If he knows that this is your first time, it's possible that he will sympathize with you and your concerns. I feel that the bottom line is that you do what feels right for you. Sex is great. Enjoy!