A Letter to the Bitch

Dear Bitch, I am not a hateful person but your behavior lately has been infantile and inconsiderate. The truth is, if I approached you calmly and politely laid out my feelings about your actions you would respond negatively. You would immediately become very confrontational, you would accept no responsibility for any negative impact you've had on your family and most likely you would place all the blame on everyone else. So this is why I've turned to this anonymous site to get my feelings out. I doubt you will actually read this and if you do maybe you will take a long look in the mirror and think about how your selfish actions effect other people. You act like your life is giant failure. As if it's some kind of tragic story that could made into an Oscar-winning tearjerker. You claim that you are so oppressed and you can often be quoted as saying "no one respects me." I have come to realize that you think of yourself as a martyr. I have some news for you. You are surrounded by people who love your and care about you very much. There have been misunderstandings between you and your husband. You act as if he is selfish and controlling. He loves you very much and if you came to him really talked to him about how you were feeling he would do whatever he could to make you happy. You are the mother of his children, the love of his life and if he found out that some casual comments hurt you so deeply and scared your relationship forever he would do what he could to mend it. He has never cheated on you, he has never abused you, and he has given you more freedom than most wives receive int heir marriages. Your husband has not held you back from anything. You have held yourself back and blamed him for all of it. He has not stopped you from going back to college. You need to stop blaming him for holding you back and 'trapping' you. You are trapping yourself. You will never be set free until you accept that you have been setting your own limits and keeping yourself in a prison. Set yourself free and embrace your flaws. Whenever something happens that upsets you the way you react is not at all mature. You bottle up your feelings yet, you lash out in passive aggressive ways. If you are mad at your husband, you lash out at me and your children. You act snotty to everyone and run away from everyone. You never address the issue. You let it get filed away int he back of your mind and slowly over time tiny things that normally wouldn't bother a person build up and you have a giant blow up. Even after that you still tell no one what happened. Why you were hurting or angry remains a mystery even after you go into a rage and leave everyone traumatized and bewildered. You can't accuse people of not caring when you never talk to them. You can't throw in our faces that we never pay attention to you or talk to you. We try. I am tired of trying. Every time someone tries to talk to you and see how you are feeling you close them out. On multiple occasions I have tried to do something nice for you because I know how sensitive and depressed you can get. Every time you have blown me off like it means nothing and then you go call somebody and rant about how horrible your life is. Instead of ranting to people who have nothing to do with the situation why don't you address these issues? I have provided ample opportunities in safe, comfortable environments and you do nothing. Now this part is going to sound very familiar to you. You are the one stopping yourself from expressing your feelings. No one is running up to you and slapping tape over your mouth. No one is talking over you. You are the one that refuses to communicate and address the issues that upset you so. When people ask you questions, they are not attacking you, they are merely trying to clarify point you are trying to make. You need to own up to the fact that you refuse to communicate. As soon as you own up to that you will already be well on your way to fixing that problem. The past few days have been the worst I have seen from you. You have complained on many occasions that no one ever wants to spend time with you. Even though your children and I have offered to go shopping with you on a daily basis. So the past two days you have run off with non-family and I am more than sure that you have done nothing but complain to them on these trips. You are telling them how horrible and oppressive we all are but when you come home you will do nothing about it. I have been doing things around the house for you but giving you space since I know trying to talk to you is pointless. Then this morning I over heard you on the phone. You didn't even try to hide your attitude. You heard me in the bathroom, I was not quiet. Later when I saw you had left again, I was not surprised. I did more chores for you and I know you won't appreciate it. Your attitude will be negative. I am done trying to solve your problems and improve our relationship. I know you have no idea how much I dislike you. I will also accept the fact that it is very possible that you are aware of my feelings towards you. I don't care anymore. Soon, I won't have to deal with you on a daily basis. Nothing brings me more joy than realizing this fact. I feel for your husband and children because they will still have to endure your selfish and delusional behavior. You need to know this though, every thing that you do that I find repulsive and hurtful, I have gone to a therapist to eliminate those traits from myself. When I am your age, I want to be nothing like you at all. I own all of my actions. I embrace all of my mistakes and figure out what I can learn from them. If I am unhappy with something I take action to change it. I am an empowered woman because of your lack of empowerment. So, I as much as I have come to dislike you I must thank you. Because your petty actions I am a better person. I owe it all to you. Sincerely, The person you keep forcing to be your best friend.