Is it possible...

Posted on July 03, 2008 at 11:04 PM (PDT) ( 65 days, 23 hours ago )
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wrote the following:

I'm in love with two people for two very different reasons.

 There's the man I've been with for 4 years and intend to marry this summer; he provides for me, he loves me, and I love him.   Then there's the other man, the man who can satisfy my sexual needs and lets me feel parts of myself that I never felt secure feeling before.

 

My question is this, is it right to stay with the one when I know I will always feel things for the other.  Which is less painful for someone, the pain of loss or the pain of betrayal? 

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  1. RE: Is it possible...

    Posted on July 03, 2008 at 11:59 PM (PDT) ( 65 days, 22 hours ago )
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    wrote the following:

    You're having the classic love vs lust conundrum.

    You'll just have to sit down and ask yourself: which do you want / need more?

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    • RE: Is it possible...

      Posted on July 04, 2008 at 01:46 PM (PDT) ( 65 days, 8 hours ago )
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      wrote the following:

      trust me, it's not lust... I do love them both.

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      • RE: Is it possible...

        Posted on July 04, 2008 at 01:54 PM (PDT) ( 65 days, 8 hours ago )
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        wrote the following:

        Hey, you're the one that mentioned the sex almost immediately when you started talking about the other guy.

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  2. RE: Is it possible...

    Posted on July 04, 2008 at 03:35 PM (PDT) ( 65 days, 7 hours ago )
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    wrote the following:

    ulf... I agree with the love versus lust thing.  You should break up with them both, seriously.

    You said you *know* you will always feel things for the other.  If you can't get past that, you don't love either of them enough.

     

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  3. RE: Is it possible...

    Posted on July 06, 2008 at 10:21 AM (PDT) ( 63 days, 12 hours ago )
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    wrote the following:

    When you really love someone you don't cheat.  Trust me when I tell you that you don't love either one of them.  You obviously don't know what love is.  I suggest you get some professional help and you pray that karma doesn't hit you back, because when it does it's going to hit you really hard.

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