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1. RE: i'm about to start an affair

   Posted on February 07, 2010 at 06:44 PM (PST) ( 6 months ago )
   

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   You don't feel guilt because you havent done the act. Guilt is a consequence of regret. The question isn't how you feel now but how you are going to feel. Will you be able to look back at this and smile or frown? You say you still love your husband but it seems that you are second guessing. If you are already looking to find someone else, then you arent in love as you think. I believe you just feel obligated. Did you ever just talk to you husband calmly?  Without resulting in fighting. If so...then there is nothin you can do about it from that stand point. But is having sex with another man a solution. Lets look at it this way. The other man is married. So, if worst comes to worst. Everyone finds out. You ruin your marriage, his marriage. Your family, his family. Especially if either you or him have kids. Its just not the right answer. Think this through before you go through with this. You will be hurting much much more than just your husband if it falls out. No good can come to this. You left high school drama long ago. Dont bring it back. My personal advice: Don't Do It. Its not worth it. There are much better solutions than just having sex. If you love him, then make it work.

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