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1. RE: Incest

   Posted on November 14, 2009 at 03:18 AM (PST) ( 9 months ago )
   

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   i get ya... me too. only it was my cousin and mutual. we started in my basement during a family get together... i let him finger me. from there, things just changed. every time we saw each other we did something... made out, groped... it felt good to me, and to him. then came that summer... i spent a couple of nights at their house. he introduced me to his friend and we all hung out and when his friend started showing interest or being flirty, he'd change, get almost jealous... his friend read it as protective but i knew better. that night, after everyone had gone to bed, we stayed up late watching a movie and then he started touching me. we ended up in his bedroom in the basement. he asked me if i wanted to and i did.. we did. i told my sisters jokingly but one thought it would be a good way to get me in trouble. and then my whole family knew, including his parents. a few years later, our grandmother in the hospital, the family distracted with worry, and us now adults, we reconnected. he'd even gotten married and was talking about introducing me to a friend of his. his wife took a liking to me right away and we became fast friends. he'd drive across town to pick me up to spend weekends at their place... she worked during the day on the weekends so that left us alone. we had sex two sometimes three times a day while she was gone, not going home til sunday night after she made us dinner. they moved to another state and we didn't keep in touch, wasn't like that. a few years passed, they divorced, he moved back to town and i was moving out of town. he offered to help me pack and load the truck the next day. most everything ended up thrown in boxes and bags because he wouldn't quit touching me. i didn't object and i liked teasing him... that was the last night it happened and the last time we saw each other. i don't feel a bit guilty about it... not even embarrassed that my family knows about that one isolated incident. the fact is that we are human animals. and most animals don't care who's related to who, they merely fulfill an instinctual need. let go of the guilt, it's not still happening and you allowed because you trusted him. your problem is intimacy, not sex. and if you love the one, you can have sex without the intimacy, intimacy grows with time. 

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