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RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 02, 2008 at 07:31 PM (PDT) ( ago )
rank: Must read!replies: 1Thank you for understanding my p.o.v. I do tend to take it personally, since I lost both my parents only 2 years apart due to their weight related issues. I don't think anyone should lose their parents, especially like that. We have no control over cancer, MS, MD, ALS, or any other diseases with no cures, but we DO have control over our bodies and lifestyles. My "fluffy" friend didn't orally say that, it was in a short, sweet, simple blog containing nothing but those words. I love her as a person, and she's a great parent to her 3 kids. I would love to take her on my walks, or with me to my gym. She'll find her overall health get better, and it WILL add years for her to spend with her kids. Once again, thank you.
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RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on September 10, 2008 at 04:23 PM (PDT) ( ago )
rank: Must read!replies: 0Well you've certainly riled someone up! The thing I think they're not seeing is that I don't believe the underlying purpose of your coment was that your friend should account to you for her weight. The problem with the excuse is that your friend and people like her who haven't taken charge of their lives need to stop making the excuses to themselves, not to other people. If they stopped waking up in the morning and saying "Oh well, I'm fat, that's just how it is." and instead said "Today I'm going to start getting more healthy." or did something to gradually loose the weight, they'd be healthier. It is true though that thin doesn't mean healthy. but it is much more likely for someone who is severely overweight to have health problems than someone who's thin who doesn't excercise. I think someone took umbrage to your venting your frustrations in an anonymous forum, but clearly if you were so shallow as to completely judge people by their appearance you would not still be friends with the woman you spoke of, unfortunately I have known some people who are that shallow.
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RE: It's just an excuse.
Posted on August 31, 2008 at 09:51 PM (PDT) ( ago )wrote the following:
You're right, it's an excuse that many women hide behind to explain why they haven't lost their weight.
You certainly deserve credit for taking control of your life and weight, many women find it difficult and it is often taken for granted when a woman does that and not really noticed as well as it should be.
I think you may be taking other women's weight issues a little personally though. It's not a relfection on you if they make excuses, if anything it makes you look better, so take a deep breath and remember that you love your friends for who they are, not how much they weigh, and maybe try to voice your opinion on their excuse in a way that won't ruin the friendship.
Maybe the next time she says she's "fluffy" you could mention that gradually loosing that "fluff" would be a good way to spend more years with them, or just off-handedly offer to take walks with her on a schedule.
But, maybe the annonymous venting helped you feel better too :)
You probably shouldn't totally bottle up your feelings though, because you do have a valid concern, especially if your firend is near obesity.