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  1. RE: My Experience with a Volatile, Bipolar Person

    Posted on June 22, 2012 at 02:10 AM (UTC) ( 11 months ago )
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    Good on you!! I think your head is in a good place and I'm impressed by your wholesomeness, intelligence and maturity. I like your mind and would want a friend like you. I really can see you and I talking for hours for you have an exceptionally stimulating and reflective mind. Regarding your saga, I'm glad you have things in perspectives and you're in tune within. Good luck and keep me posted!!

    • RE: My Experience with a Volatile, Bipolar Person

      Posted on June 23, 2012 at 12:07 AM (UTC) ( 11 months ago )
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      Af1763183864f0a0e6b7574de5adebe2

      wrote the following:

      Thank you, that was a very kind thing to say. As the time's passed I have come to accept what happened to me. It's such a pity though as now I am suspicious of everyone and insecure about my own strength as a result, where before I was blissfully ignorant. I suppose it's all part of growing up and I've just been lucky with the people in my life up until this point. My only remaining worry is that people less stable than me fall so easily into these situations with no hope of escape and I'm powerless to help. Because at the end of the day, you can't really help who you fall for.

      • RE: My Experience with a Volatile, Bipolar Person

        Posted on June 23, 2012 at 04:31 PM (UTC) ( 11 months ago )
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        49afb95eff7d0bdd12f0cb9c6edadaa5

        wrote the following:

        Ahh....no..no..NO....."It's such a pity though as now I am suspicious of everyone and insecure about my own strength "...thats the scar , the contamination, talking. You can't operate from that stance. Remember you are essential a positive person, intelligent, grounded. Thats who you are, own it! So, while accepting the truamas of this encounter, we know we can also see the fears and weaknesses that underpins their negative machinations. How then can we allow or afford these pretencious twisted evils autonomy over us and our deserved positivisism. Yes, its a continious battle and it can get bloody, searing, raw and fatal, but I for one believe that Light penetrates and illuminates Darkness, its a natural law. My psyche holds resolute in that regard - (from my mouth to God's, humbly and pleadingly). So don't allow this saga to shift your balance, your roots should hold firm and your foundation deep - you fortunately possess all the essentials for this value-judgement or belief. As we both acknowledged earlier, its a case of shake yourself down, get yourself up and start all over again, putting it simplicitly. Recognising a knock in confidence mean we can also recognise ways and means of talking remedial action. You have already considered relevance of the healing process, so matters are in hand. Sadly, regarding others, we can only do what is within our immediate remit and realistically can't take on the responsibilities of others, life is full of sad tales, unfortunate contacts, miss-matches, waring tribes, love and pain, light and dark. So as we have our tales, others too would have their tales and most of the time, all we can do is listen cause we don't live their lives and can't wear their worries. Lets work on the suspicious issue and address any insecurities. You should soon be able to put these to bed. We may carry the wounds but they don't define who or what we are, we will OWN that positive priveleged opportunity.

        • RE: My Experience with a Volatile, Bipolar Person

          Posted on June 24, 2012 at 01:33 AM (UTC) ( 11 months ago )
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          Af1763183864f0a0e6b7574de5adebe2

          wrote the following:

          You're right and I've realised this too. Lately I've cried for the others which is a completely wasted action and so every time I catch myself doing so, I remind myself how lucky I am to be able to see the good in life. I fell for this person because I managed to see the good in them. That's an achievement! haha.. I'm going to work on being alone in the sense of being singular, whilst surrounding myself with other positive people. I've got big changes coming up in my life and a very eventful summer to distract myself for the time being. I hope to some day be strong enough to carry the burden of someone without having it affect me so, because I do believe still that I am capable of helping. I will however put less value into their emotional state in relation to me and not let myself get so involved. I am still very young and if I have the mentality that this person has stolen my childhood and "damaged" me then I'll never get anything done. I look forward to the day when I really find peace with the situation and can look back with kind eyes rather than bitterness. I'm happy for you as you seem to have this figured out or at least are on the way..

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  1. RE: My Experience with a Volatile, Bipolar Person

    Posted on June 23, 2012 at 12:07 AM (UTC) ( 11 months ago )
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    Af1763183864f0a0e6b7574de5adebe2

    wrote the following:

    Thank you, that was a very kind thing to say. As the time's passed I have come to accept what happened to me. It's such a pity though as now I am suspicious of everyone and insecure about my own strength as a result, where before I was blissfully ignorant. I suppose it's all part of growing up and I've just been lucky with the people in my life up until this point. My only remaining worry is that people less stable than me fall so easily into these situations with no hope of escape and I'm powerless to help. Because at the end of the day, you can't really help who you fall for.

    • RE: My Experience with a Volatile, Bipolar Person

      Posted on June 23, 2012 at 04:31 PM (UTC) ( 11 months ago )
      replies: 1
      49afb95eff7d0bdd12f0cb9c6edadaa5

      wrote the following:

      Ahh....no..no..NO....."It's such a pity though as now I am suspicious of everyone and insecure about my own strength "...thats the scar , the contamination, talking. You can't operate from that stance. Remember you are essential a positive person, intelligent, grounded. Thats who you are, own it! So, while accepting the truamas of this encounter, we know we can also see the fears and weaknesses that underpins their negative machinations. How then can we allow or afford these pretencious twisted evils autonomy over us and our deserved positivisism. Yes, its a continious battle and it can get bloody, searing, raw and fatal, but I for one believe that Light penetrates and illuminates Darkness, its a natural law. My psyche holds resolute in that regard - (from my mouth to God's, humbly and pleadingly). So don't allow this saga to shift your balance, your roots should hold firm and your foundation deep - you fortunately possess all the essentials for this value-judgement or belief. As we both acknowledged earlier, its a case of shake yourself down, get yourself up and start all over again, putting it simplicitly. Recognising a knock in confidence mean we can also recognise ways and means of talking remedial action. You have already considered relevance of the healing process, so matters are in hand. Sadly, regarding others, we can only do what is within our immediate remit and realistically can't take on the responsibilities of others, life is full of sad tales, unfortunate contacts, miss-matches, waring tribes, love and pain, light and dark. So as we have our tales, others too would have their tales and most of the time, all we can do is listen cause we don't live their lives and can't wear their worries. Lets work on the suspicious issue and address any insecurities. You should soon be able to put these to bed. We may carry the wounds but they don't define who or what we are, we will OWN that positive priveleged opportunity.

      • RE: My Experience with a Volatile, Bipolar Person

        Posted on June 24, 2012 at 01:33 AM (UTC) ( 11 months ago )
        replies: 1
        Af1763183864f0a0e6b7574de5adebe2

        wrote the following:

        You're right and I've realised this too. Lately I've cried for the others which is a completely wasted action and so every time I catch myself doing so, I remind myself how lucky I am to be able to see the good in life. I fell for this person because I managed to see the good in them. That's an achievement! haha.. I'm going to work on being alone in the sense of being singular, whilst surrounding myself with other positive people. I've got big changes coming up in my life and a very eventful summer to distract myself for the time being. I hope to some day be strong enough to carry the burden of someone without having it affect me so, because I do believe still that I am capable of helping. I will however put less value into their emotional state in relation to me and not let myself get so involved. I am still very young and if I have the mentality that this person has stolen my childhood and "damaged" me then I'll never get anything done. I look forward to the day when I really find peace with the situation and can look back with kind eyes rather than bitterness. I'm happy for you as you seem to have this figured out or at least are on the way..

        • RE: My Experience with a Volatile, Bipolar Person

          Posted on June 26, 2012 at 02:32 AM (UTC) ( 11 months ago )
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          3e18b6fdaa8aef88a04cd4df6f6c05f7

          wrote the following:

          For one so young, you've dealt with a very difficult situation admirably and most importantly you exited at the right time and never became a fatal casuality of the experience. You're actually managing a lot better than most, as anyone whose ever dealt with an emotional break-up knows how truamatic, harrowing, depressing and utterly demoralising these matters can be, not to mention the bi-polar equation in your case. It normal and human to run through the whole garmut of emotion from hurt to bewilderment to anger to hate to astonishment to bitterness etc, etc. You are cooping brilliantly and in time you'll soon be right as rain. You've got a good mind, good head and other great qualities which is apparant in your writings and assertions. Have a good summer and do as you planned, I pray and hope all your wishes and desires are met and you continue to grow in love and enlightenment. You are kind and sensitive to others, that's not at all a bad thing, you are essentially a positive person and you are bright and intelligent to boot, I can only see good things ahead for you. You will heal from this experience, you will love again. An old adage states " The good life is inspired by love and guided by intelligence", so our future choice of partners will not only appeal to our hearts or any other whimsical take, but would also attend a series of official interviews as why they would be the best and most suitable candidate for the position. (lol... but you get my point.) The head should rule the heart, my dear old mother used to say! You too stated something quite similar above. I know its not easy making rules where love is concerned and there's no magic formula or some engaging trick to guide us, we live, we learn and all we can really do is just hope for the best. You didn't do wrong and any experience can be a learning curve, the bitterness will fade and indeed one day, you will definitely look back and smile wirily at your experience. I am still learning, you know its a continuous process and I certainly don't have all the answers or even know enough, but I can recognise the words and action of a worthy person and can take positive strength from knowing that as long as such people exists, there's still hope for our big bad world. Wish you joy and peace always. "Bon chance"..