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1. RE: Family Matters...?

   Posted on November 07, 2011 at 04:58 PM (UTC) ( over 1 year ago )
   

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   I feel your pain.  When I was a tenn, my family wanted me to become confirmed as well.  The more I thought about it the more I knew their religion was not for me.  I figured i had two choices then.  To "buck" and refuse or just get confirmed and when I move our just go my own way.  I chose to just go get confirmed and then when I left home, I simply did my own thing.  In some ways I regret my choice.  I felt it my right to think and feel how I wanted to.  But in some repsects you have to use a lot of tact in this circumstance.  They are you family.  Sometimes we have to make tough choices and do things we may not want, because we love them, and do not wish to hurt their feelings.  

   What I did was sit them down and explain that I was willing to get confirmed, but that I was not the "go to church" type.  I did it to make them happy.  I have some regrets, but in the end it was all no big deal.  I grew up, moved out, and went my own way and no one was any wiser.  Untill I got married......they expected a Catholic wedding...and that was NOT going to happen.  Just know you will have to eventualy come out and explain your religious view to your family.  Trust in the fact that they love you no matter what.  It is much eaiser to tackle these things after you have proven to them you are an independant adult capable of making your own sound choices.  I wish you the best of luck!!!! 

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